Why Can’t I Make a Simple Darn Decision? (Hint: It’s Not What You Think)

In Today's Email:

• 🩵 Why making a decision feels like a panic attack (even when it shouldn’t)

• 🌸 3 Ways to Reclaim Yourself Today

• 🪫 60-second Energy Reset

• 🎨 Mini art ritual: Clear the noise + channel your truth

You’re Not Lost — You’re In the In-Between

Dear One,

Isn’t it wild how once you start doing personal growth work…
the layers don’t just peel back —
They erupt?

Old memories.
Old fears.
Old patterns — rising up like smoke from a fire you didn’t even know was still burning.

And one of the things that might be hitting you hardest lately?
The struggle to make a darn decision.

Not just the big ones.
Even the small ones.
“What do I want?”
“Is this the right choice?”
“Why do I feel frozen?”

WHY CAN’T I MAKE A CHOICE?!?!

Let me tell you something sacred:

Because if you were raised in a high-control, ultra-religious environment…
You probably weren’t allowed to choose much of anything.

What to wear.
What to believe.
How to feel.
Who to trust.
What was “right.”
What was holy.

You were trained to obey.
Shamed for questioning.
Praised for disappearing.

So now, when your adult self pauses —
When you freeze in front of a menu, or a conversation, or a crossroads —
It’s not because you’re flaky. Or broken. Or “too emotional.”

It’s because your body still remembers what it felt like to be wrong,
To be rejected,
And to be cast out.

This isn’t about weakness.
This is about programming.

But Here’s the Reframe:

You’re learning to choose yourself — maybe for the first time.

And even if you fumble…
Even if you second-guess…
Even if your voice shakes as you whisper “no” instead of the familiar “yes”…

You may be learning to trust the woman you’re becoming,
Or reclaiming your voice from the silence.
And even in the mess — you are rising.

Try This Right Now:

A Doorway Forward:

If your soul is shouting “YES” —
you’re not meant to walk this spiral alone.

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If you’ve ever been scared to choose yourself…
Know this:

A Reminder for the Woman Who Freezes:

You are not indecisive.
You are healing. You are relearning what was put inside you by a religious construct.
You are rebuilding trust with the woman inside who was taught to silence herself —
And sister, she is starting to speak up again.

You don’t have to get it “right.”
You just have to get closer to the real you.

With love and fire,

Debby

🌸 3 Ways to Reclaim Yourself Today

✨60-second Energy Reset: The Eden “Crossover Shoulder Pull”

From Donna Eden's energy medicine — this quick technique helps release stress, rebalance hemispheres of the brain, and re-establish flow when you feel overwhelmed or frozen.

How to do it:

1. Stand or sit comfortably.

2. Reach your right hand across your body to your left shoulder.

3. Grab that shoulder gently, pull across your chest toward your right hip.
   (Like drawing a diagonal sash.)

4. Do the same on the other side:
   Left hand to right shoulder → down to left hip.

5. Repeat 3–5 times on each side, slowly, while breathing deeply.

6. As you do it, whisper:

   “I choose to come back into balance. My energy is mine.”
   (Or your own variation.)

Why it works:
👉 This move activates the homolateral crossover pattern—essential for healthy energy flow, focus, and emotional regulation. It realigns the body's electrical system and calms the fight/flight/freeze response.

🎨 Art Ritual: “The Path I Choose”

A simple practice for rebuilding trust in your own voice.

Grab a page in your journal.
With a pen, scribble or write the words:
“What do I want?”
Let the page hold every whisper, every fear, every wish. No censoring. No fixing.

Next, take two colors that feel bold or true to you.
Paint or draw a winding path across the page —
Twist it, layer it, let it feel like you.

At the end of the path, draw a symbol that says:
“I choose.”
That’s it.

Let your body feel what it means to trust your own direction again.
No permission slip needed.