The People Pleaser's Obituary

The People Pleaser’s Funeral

She died two years ago last Tuesday.
Worn down from performing, apologizing, disappearing.
She let go of her last f*ck, opened her palm, and laid it to rest.

Her funeral was - interesting.
I buried her with every “yes” she whispered when she meant “no,”
and every dream she gave up to make someone else more comfortable.

You see, for years, I thought being small made me safe.
If they were okay, then I was okay.
If they felt seen, I didn’t need to be.
If they were comfortable, I was doing my job.

And here’s the truth I found out much later:

The people who loved the performance never truly loved me -
They loved what I gave of myself - over and over and over.
They loved how quiet I was.
They loved my submission.

And I was never meant to disappear.

Neither were you.

💥 Something in You Is Ready to Die

The people pleaser in you?
She’s exhausted.
She’s done her job.

And now—it’s time to let her go.

Because the ones who really love you -
They’re not asking for a performance.
They’re asking for your presence.

This is the moment you begin to rise.
Not as the sweet, silent version of you.
But as the one who wields boundaries, is bold, and unapologetically alive.

✉️ Letters to My Younger Self

She didn’t deserve to be told her body was dangerous.
She didn’t deserve the shame, the silence, or the fear.

She’s still in there—waiting for your voice.

In this free course, you’ll write directly to her:

📝 to her thighs
📝 to her belly
📝 to her voice
📝 to her fire

No devotionals.
No more shame.

Just a revolution on paper.
Because she was never too much.
She was always divine.

👉 Start your Letters today. 

🎨 Art Moment: Unmasking the Mirror

Create a visual split of your authentic self vs. your people-pleasing mask.

On one side of your paper, paint the mask—
The smiles you faked.
The roles you played.
The shrinking, the silencing, the survival.

On the other side, paint you—
Your bold truth.
Your real desires.
The colors, textures, and lines of your unapologetic soul.

Which side feels more alive?

 🔥 3 Ways to Put the People Pleaser to Rest

⚡ 60-Second Energy Reset: The Approval Detox

Inspired by Denise Linn’s Soul Coaching

• Stand tall.

• Visualize golden cords connecting you to everyone whose approval you chase—your parents, your ex, your church, etc.

• One by one, cut those cords with golden scissors.

• As you cut, say:

Let the freedom land in your chest. Feel the weight fall.

🌀 Why it works:
This visualization clears your energetic field of old contracts and entanglements, making space for your true voice to emerge.

🔥 The Divine Reclaim Method™ is where the people pleaser is laid to rest—ritually, reverently, and without apology.

🔥 Inside The Divine Reclaim Method™
...is where the people pleaser is laid to rest—ritually, reverently, and for good.

You weren’t born to contort.
You were taught to.

The Divine Reclaim Method™ walks you back to yourself—
the woman who sets boundaries with clarity
and no longer fears being "too much."

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Ready to rise as you?
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💌 P.S. Love Note

Brave sister,

You are not here to be agreeable.
You are here to be true.

The people pleaser kept you safe once—but you’re not in that room anymore.
You don’t need to disappear to survive.

If something stirred in you while reading this, I want to hear it.

Hit reply and tell me what you buried.
Tell me who’s rising.

You are not alone in this rebellion.
You are walking with a woman who sees you.

I love you.
—Debby

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