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The "Nice" Girl Has Left the Building
Why Your Anger is Actually Truthful Information
Debby Meadows
June 26, 2025
Today’s Truth (in 15 seconds):
Being “nice” almost cost me everything.
Because shrinking yourself to keep the peace?
Is the fastest way to abandon your own soul.
The Moment It Snapped
I was raised to be agreeable.
Smile when I wanted to scream.
Say yes when everything in me was a no.
Shrink so others wouldn’t feel uncomfortable around my bigness.
And damn, I got good at it.
So good I almost disappeared.
The “nice girl” version of me?
She got praised. Protected. Applauded for being easy to handle.
Even when her insides were on fire.
Until something holy inside me snapped.
Not in a breakdown kind of way—
In a this-is-your-rebirth kind of way.
She didn’t fade.
She combusted.
Here’s what no one tells you about awakening:
Awakening doesn’t feel like butterflies.
It feels like grief.
Like watching the false you die
…so the real you can finally breathe.
It’s messy.
It’s sacred.
And it’s time.
Because you weren’t born to be a smiling doormat with a cross around your neck.
You were born to be wildly, magnificently, unapologetically alive.
Your anger isn’t a flaw.
It’s a flare from your soul saying:
“This isn’t it. You were never meant to live this small.”
Ready to Hear Yourself Again?
The Intuitive Decision-Making Journal
This isn’t fluff.
It’s a guided journey to cut through noise, decondition the good girl, and reconnect with the wild wisdom you buried to survive.
Because when you trust your own knowing?
You stop shrinking.
You start living.
You become.
🎨 The Art of Becoming: Death Before Rebirth
From Compliance to Flame
Theme: From Compliance to Flame
Use red, black, and gold if you have them.
Draw the shape of your silence.
Then overlay strokes, dots, or scribbles of power.
Let the image transform.
Ask: What does my voice look like, unleashed?
Art from my personal art journal
🔥 3 Things to Reclaim Your Fire
✦ Name the moments you went silent.
And whisper, “I forgive myself. I’m coming back.”
✦ Draw a boundary that scares you - one you’ve never drawn before.
It’s not selfish. It’s real. Raw. And maybe…just what you need to protect YOU.
✦ Say what you really mean—out loud.
Even if your voice shakes.
⚡ 60-Second Energy Reset
Why it works:
Your nervous system doesn’t respond to logic—it responds to rhythm, breath, and safety. This practice interrupts the panic pattern and brings you back into your body.
Do this now:
Sit or stand tall.
Place one hand on your heart, the other on your low belly.
Inhale for 4. Hold for 4. Exhale for 4. Rest for 4. This is called Box Breathing.
Repeat 3 times.
Then whisper:
“I am here. I am safe. I am allowed to feel.”
Let that truth settle deep, then ask yourself - How would my life look differently if I allowed myself to really feel?
Want to Heal Loudly With Us?
Sit with women who are choosing truth over tradition.
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💌 P.S. Love Note
You don’t need to torch your life in one night.
You just need to say yes to your own gut—
one brave breath, one small rebellion, one real moment at a time.
If you’ve read this far, thank you!
Much love,
Debby
